As you grow up, confidence changes in big ways. For some people, their confidence changes for good, while others it may change for the worse. But honestly, through my 19 years on this Earth, I have noticed a roller coaster of confidence as I have progressed through life’s biggest hills & drops. My first scary Goliath hill came with graduating colorful markers, finger paint, and the holding of my hand as I walked onto the bus and into the awkward, body-changing phase of my life. As I graduated 6th, 7th, and 8th grade, my confidence moved from about a 9 to probably a 5-6. Everyone in that phase of their life finds confidence in successes, friendships, family, and normal human things that makes lives more and more bold. As my friends “grew up”, I did the same. We went through the firsts together: first strapless bra, first boy to crush on, first failing grade, and of course, a girl’s first kiss. As middle school progressed, it seemed my confidence grew and grew. I became very familiar with where I was, who I was becoming, where I wanted to be and how to get there. So, that being said, I left McClure Middle School with my confidence back at about a 9. As you transition into high school, it can go one or two ways: you can keep pushing yourself for that confidence and dependence on yourself OR you can find confidence in other places. For me, it was option number 2. The things I let myself become dependent on were not necessarily terrible things, but I was not leaning on me. I was leaning on Earthly things to create every bit of happiness, and in the end, this hurt me more than it helped me.
This same transition hit me when I moved into my small dorm room in Creswell Hall and embarked on my journey at the University of Georgia. As I grew throughout this past year, confidence was 100% one of the biggest struggles I faced. Everything changed in my life–living alone, family being 1.5 hours away, friends spread throughout the South, etc. At the end of this year, I constantly thought to myself: “Why do I feel so much less confident than I did back in August?” And honestly, I could still not tell you the answer. I went through so much, grew so much, and met so many incredible people: my life should be at an all time high. Don’t get me wrong, this year was a m a z i n g. But I realized that dependency on Earthly things or other people is not gonna make you happy. This summer I have spent 100% of my time doing everything for myself. Whether it be working out or shopping or watching Netflix, I have made myself a number one priority. This kind of selfishness is not rash, but will shape each and every day with confidence and dependence on yourself, which as you grow up, you will notice is one of the most important things on your to-do list to watch out for.
This ensemble pushes color-blocking into an every day look. Denim on denim is an ever-occuring trend that seems to balance comfortable and casual. The jeans, from Forever 21, gives the look a way more edgy vibe. Because ripped jeans seem to have been the most essential item to a fashionista’s closet since the 1990’s, these highlight that beautiful trend. The light wash denim can be worn in the summer, as well as the spring. These jeans are not only ridiculously comfortable, but create a more baggy feel (called “boyfriend jeans”) to keep the look more casual. This patchy, medium wash crop top adds a little extra class to the look. From Forever 21, this blouse is comfortable, but fitting. The front pockets and v-neck highlight your neck, while keeping your chest busy. The light feel to this top lets you breathe, while also giving you the ability to move around without worrying about anything unwanted sticking out, or bending over and flashing everyone around you. My favorite wedges in the entire world are paired with this ensemble. These Target $28.95 black suede peep-toe wedges have been worn down to the very last bit of the sole.These shoes are perfect for summer, spring, and even a little time in the fall. Because of the platform wedge, these shoes are easily versatile, and can be worn for 8 hours a day without your feet aching with pain by the end of the day. The sunglasses enhance the look, giving the ensemble a street-style vibe. These Timeless Round Ray Bans protect your eyes from the sun, while adding a little something more casual and comfortable for a day out with friends.
As you go about these huge transitions throughout your lifetime, whether it be middle school to high school, high school to college, or college to the big bad world, I encourage you to find happiness in yourself. Yourself is the best friend you can make, and being selfish isn’t always a bad thing.